Do you find yourself creating dramas in your life?
Perhaps you don’t know what to do with yourself when everything is going well?
Does calmness = boring for you?
Do you spend lots of time imagining all of the terrible things which could go wrong?
If you have answered ‘yes’ to these questions, it’s possible you could be a drama addict!
For those of us who come from backgrounds with a high level of dysfunction, there is often a strong unconscious desire to recreate the dysfunction we experienced growing up.
If ‘the norm’ for you growing up was drama, chaos and unpredictability, you may feel seriously uncomfortable with peace, calm and routine. Therefore without even knowing you’re doing it, you may end up creating your own version of your childhood, because it feels familiar.
Ways in which people create drama can include:
Falling out with neighbours, friends and family on a regular basis
Creating arguments over nothing in particular
Pushing people away when they get too close
Constant fantasizing about negative scenarios such as accidents, death and divorce
Gossiping about other people’s lives and dramas
Splitting up with partners and getting back together over and over again
Indulging in these behaviour patterns are great for taking you ‘out of the moment’ if you struggle with being present. They create a drama which can be a useful distraction from life, and something which can keep you preoccupied for hours or even days!
If life feels a bit hum-drum and repetitive, creating drama gives a things an exciting edge. And without it life may become pretty unbearable.
So it has to be repeated again, and again, and again. And before you know it, you can’t live without it.
Sounds like addiction to me…