OK OK so I’ve got low self-esteem! Now what?
Ever felt like this?
You get a good insight into yourself, a lightbulb moment even, about something fundamental.
And then you wonder… so what?
It can be frustrating when we work hard on ourselves for these crucial insights, but then have no idea how to work on addressing our ‘issues’.
So, I thought I would share some simple, everyday actions we can take to improve our self-esteem in my…
TOP 5 SELF-ESTEEM IMPROVING ACTIONS:
Do one thing every day that you do not want to do. Make it something simple like going for a walk, phoning a friend, going to a Fellowship meeting or doing the washing-up.
Practice setting boundaries. Start small – decide that you will leave the office at 5pm and no later. If you are asked to stay late, say no. Work towards those more difficult boundaries, like telling your friend that you’ve only got 10 minutes when she phones, or your mum that you can only get round once a week. You get the idea.
Say no when that is what you mean. This one ties-in with setting boundaries. It’s crucial to our self-esteem that we stop people-pleasing. Stop compulsively doing things for others that you don’t want to do.
Set yourself realistic goals and congratulate yourself when you achieve them. Try not to make this one a punishment – make the goals things you really want to do, but procrastinate around. For example: start the yoga class you’ve been meaning to join, book the Spanish lessons, research the college course, start sponsoring..
Be kind to yourself. Positive self-talk, healthy eating, gentle exercise, plenty of sleep.
In my experience self-esteem comes from doing esteemable things; those things you find difficult or challenging. This repeated action of proving to yourself that you are a capable human being registers in your psyche. The more of these actions you take, the more self-esteem you bank. Makes sense doesn’t it?
So, if you have had a lightbulb moment and realised that your self-esteem could do with a boost, try some of my top 5 self-esteem boosting actions. And let me know how you get on!